Emotional trauma is invisible. It is silent. And for people who have never been confronted by it, almost impossible to understand. Many people who are close to those who have experienced abuse often feel helpless because they don’t know how to help their loved ones through these trying times. More often than not, this results in the victims feeling abandoned or unsupported.
I, too, am a victim of emotional trauma. I was molested when I was 12 years old. And raped at the age of 22. These were only the two most severe incidents. It seemed as if I was a magnet for sexual assault. At some point I could not take it anymore and withdrew from life.
So many people carry their emotional burden around with them their whole lives. After many years of living with this pain, it becomes a part of who they are. What most people don’t realize is that they keep themselves hostage. Yes, we had to experience this abuse when it happened, but we don’t have to punish ourselves over and over for it. It was not our fault and we are allowed to let it go!
Just recently I have been musing about why I still feel like a twenty-something year old woman. And then I suddenly realized that when I was 22, my life ended. That was the time I stopped living. Then one day it hit me that for 20+ years I kept this young woman – who wants nothing more than to burst into dance and enjoy life – hostage within my heart because I was afraid that if I let her out, everything would just start all over again.
Healing from emotional trauma is possible. We just need to find the right approach for us. So many times I have heard from friends and clients the same words: “After years of counseling, my therapist suddenly said that he couldn’t help me and terminated the sessions.” For many people this can be devastating because modern medicine tells us that counseling is the best approach for healing emotional trauma. But this is not necessarily true.
On my quest for healing, I found peace in spirituality. It was a feeling as if I had come home after a long journey. I studied Reiki and learned how to use crystals for their energy. And slowly I started down the road to emotional recovery. As a Reiki Practitioner I have learned that emotional trauma is an energy blockage. This blockage is a direct result of the emotional pain we keep buried in the depth of our hearts. But once we are ready to let go of that emotional trauma, we can remove these blockages and begin to heal.
Our mind is a complex being and our heart is just the same. Once we decide that simply dealing with our emotional pain is not enough anymore, we are ready to begin our journey back to ourselves.
Love and Light,