But sadly, all too often something happens that inadvertently interrupts that beautiful dance. A simple conversation can severely push our buttons and end in a heated argument for no apparent reason. Or we deeply resent one of our partner’s friends or family members even though they have never given us any cause to feel this way. We may resent our partner’s parenting style or presumed lack of taking responsibility. And the list goes on and on.
It’s situations like these that only too often causa a relationship to eventually fall apart because we just can’t take the constant arguments anymore. There is no balance, no joy, no companionship.
But it does not have to be this way.
What most couples don’t realize is that situations like these and most others are caused by emotional triggers brought on by unresolved past trauma. The moment we are in these triggers we react to the distressing emotions we feel, and once we are out of that trigger we can’t understand what had happened. If we release the root cause of these triggers those heated arguments will stop and we can finally build a healthy relationship with those people we used to resent for no apparent reason.